What is so-i-feel-full-black?

Poetry blog evolved into a Digital Emotional Assistant.

Feel something? Stop by to:

Feel better
Make something great out of your joy
Share your story

Pick your current emotion & work through the MOC-g or CMI process

You are the master of your feelings. Own it.
A life with no feelings, is a life unlived.

What is the purpose of an emotion?

Like seriously what is the point of having emotions? What function does it serve? Yes, a simple answer could be “to make life worth living” or “self-preservation mechanism” which are both very true, however, I believe another very important aspect has eluded us.

Our emotions assist us; It is a tool.

Whether you choose to utilize this tool or not will determine the quality of life you have.

Emotional System = Feedback system comparing two aspects and making the appropriate changes to achieve balance. What are the two aspects being compared? Your inherent will vs the external validation. The output is your feeling. Good feelings means both aspects are inline, bad feelings mean one contrasts with the other.graphics-1

What’s next? Naturally when “you feel so good” or “you feel horrible” you are prompted to take action; to do something about it. This is a corrective input action to be fed back into the feedback system. We see this type of system all over, biologically and environmentally. However, let’s face it, we live in an age where we’ve become so desensitized and detached from reality we don’t even know we feel sometimes.

This is where So I Feel comes in. Use this site as a tool to pinpoint what you could be feeling, take the appropriate corrective input action and allow it to guide you to the secrets your subconscious has been hiding.graphics-5

If you feel Depressed there is a very slim chance you will jump all the way to Love the next day. No matter where you stand, the idea is to work yourself up one step at a time.

The Inner Workings of

Coherence (C)

Think your brain controls all the functions of your body? Think again, this time with your heart.

About 65% of the heart neurons are identical to your brain neurons. Your heart “brain” Is aware 5-10 seconds before your head brain knows what is going on; this communication occurs through your Vagus nerve.

Your cerebral brain and your heart need to communicate in order for your body to function properly. To strengthen this communication, coherence and HRV (Heart Rate Variability) type exercises should be practised. During training, your heart rate and your breathing synchronize. When the brains electrical rhythms synchronize with the heartbeat, this acts as gateway to high cognitive functioning and prefrontal cortex emotional regulation by employing the use of your parasympathetic nervous system.

What are the benefits of practising the coherence exercise?

HRV is a biomarker and an indication of your health, emotional health and cognitive performance. It strengthens your ability to let go of negative emotional states which increases your chances of utilizing positive emotional states. If you’re already in a good mood, coherence works through a positive feedback mechanism which strengthens your positive emotions even further and gives you a calm stabilized feeling.


Your heart rate speeds up as you breathe in and slows down when you breathe out. The higher the HRV, the better.

Negative emotions block coherence and positive emotions enhance coherence.

Practising the coherence exercise daily, should yield a better emotional resilience.

Music Therapy (M)

Though this may not be Music Therapy in the traditional sense of the term, music does assist in therapeutic practices. Furthermore, music naturally stimulates the “emotional” regions of your brain. For negative emotions, using music decreases the likelihood of suppressing emotions. It brings your attention to the emotion by prompting you to feel the emotion and not just think of it; this primes you for the next step in the process (O). For positive emotions, focusing your attention helps you appreciate and fully immerse yourself in your joy using music.

Out of your shell (O)

Using the emotions you have driven to the forefront of your consciousness, you will use it to understand your subconscious.

Alert: You have a twin-self that has an 80% control of your life in which you are unaware of.


As you grow up, you go about your life picking up certain beliefs imposed on you by others, circumstances and events, that embed themselves in your Subconscious. Sample evidence: You think of yourself as a good-looking person. When it comes to taking pictures, you unintentionally adjust yourself to reveal your “good side/angle” without putting much thought into it. This could be a sign of the Negative Foundational Thought “I am ugly”.

Apart from making you unintentionally behave in certain ways, your Subconscious plays a vital role in most negative emotions you experience throughout your life.

Yes, having an invisible nemesis who is most likely responsible for a number of negative emotions you’ve felt, doesn’t sound like fun. However, your Subconscious doesn’t have to be an enemy; you can befriend it and make it work in your favour.

You will commit a heist and perform inception on your mind.

AKA you will steal Negative Foundational Thoughts from Subconscious and reprogram Subconscious with Positive Foundational Thoughts. By working through the listed questions, you are prompted to investigate your Subconscious and unearth Negative Foundational Thoughts. You will then flip it to create a Positive Foundational Thought and expose yourself to it everyday using the methods listed or any other creative methods you can think of. Try not to focus on obvious, shallow and tangible NF-thoughts such as “I am fat” as this will get you nowhere; you need to dig deeper. Thoughts such as “I am unlovable” “I am unsafe” would be more appropriate and could be the reason for your excess of weight.

You may find that the same NF-Thought may be the root of many negative emotions you may go through. Uprooting the NF-Thought may take a lot of time, depending on how old you are and how much it has impacted your life.

Inspired action (I)

There are two reasons for this practice.

  1. When we feel great, we usually let the positive energy go to waste. We all know what happens when we act out and make decisions from an unfocused negative space: Disaster. Imagine if everyone took a moment to do something positive every time they felt great. Small and grand gestures all contribute to a better you and a better world.graphics-4
  2. When we feel extremely amazing such as ecstatic, our positive energy is unstable, this is perfect breeding ground for bi-polar mood swings. So, if you want to minimize the chances of waking up in a crappy mood the next morning, focus your positive energy by doing something that requires some focus.
Gratitude (g)

Being thankful is a great way to focus your thoughts in a positive manner. Take your time and allow it to make you smile. The simple act of smiling activates your brain to release dopamine, so a better mood should follow soon after.

The information and advice contained on this site is based off of personal and collective experience, and should not and is not intended to take the place of professional advice and medical care.